10 Things

A friend who knows I’m going through a hard time recommended a book to me. I decided to pick it up and offered to share my opinion of it via my Facebook page. So here goes!

The book is called The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart by Daphne Rose Kingma. I highly recommend this read for those of you who can’t seem to make sense of your current situation.


Even if you don’t feel your life is completely falling apart you may still feel anger or hurt or torn or frustrated…this book will give you the clarity and enlightenment you need.

The book is ten chapters – one chapter for each “thing” to do. At the end of each chapter are questions the reader can reflect on. It may sound nerdy but I sat with my questions and my journal and thought about each answer. I won’t tell you my crisis suddenly disappeared or I’m on top of the world, but I can tell you that I’m using this experience as best as I can as a learning tool.

I would imagine my readers are curious as to what is going on. It is so painful to me that I can’t include you in this ~ whether to ask for advice or gather support. I feel as though I’ve been fake with you. Because the truth of who I am is that I am honest about what I really am and what I am really feeling.

Because I can’t do that I just feel like a big fake phony.

Believe me when I tell you it hurts me. My silence. I don’t know if that makes me a sad person? That I like to share my goings-on with complete strangers or if it’s that it makes me feel some small connection to anyone in the world. Because the truth is, I’m one of those people who is often surrounded by people and yet I often feel alone. I’m often stuck in my own head. I believe that many of my readers are the same way.

My words keep me alive. My sharing keeps me alive.

There have been many days I’ve wanted to just delete the blog all together. Oops, no more Jlee’s Blog. Maybe it would actually motivate me to sell this darn manuscript. Maybe it would help me to not be so fearful of what I’m going through right now. Maybe it would help me to build up my self-confidence that in life it doesn’t really matter…it…whatever it may be. Maybe not having Jlee’s Blog would be like an instant relief?

Maybe I’m just feeling deep today…or sorry for myself. It is a PMDD week after all and I found myself breaking down at my desk this morning letting the tears stream down my cheeks knowing that every Tom, Dick and Harry that walks by my office can see right in. But it felt good to cry, even though I’m an ugly crier.

Does anyone look pretty when they cry?
Does anyone look pretty when they cry?

Which brings me back to 10 Things. Let me share the chapters with you and then you determine if it may or may not be a good fit. In fact, upon posting this blog I will be passing this book inspiration along to someone close to me who is in need of enlightenment.

Chapter 1:  Cry Your Heart Out
Chapter 2:  Face Your Defaults
Chapter 3:  Do Something Different
Chapter 4:  Let Go
Chapter 5:  Remember Who You’ve Always Been
Chapter 6:  Persist
Chapter 7:  Integrate Your Loss
Chapter 8:  Live Simply
Chapter 9: Go Where the Love Is
Chapter 10:  Live in the Light of the Spirit

...In whatever your faith may be:)
…In whatever your faith may be:)

Have you read any good inspirational books? If so please share in the comments below!

Author: jlee5879

Office manager by day...struggling writer by night

2 thoughts on “10 Things”

  1. Jlee, I think it’s OK for you not to share the details – we can still wish you well and keep you in our thoughts and prayers. I think you are right in saying many of us feel alone among people. One thing I love about the blogospere is that most of the people here connect to others through their writing and/or art and/or photographs. Years ago I “discovered” a classic book, Gift from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh. I find it immensely calming and helpful. It amazes me how current the central themes are after all these years. What a life that woman had, the highest highs and the lowest lows a person can experience, and maybe that’s why she could write with such wisdom. I hope you are feeling better soon! I love your honesty – and remember, being honest doesn’t always mean telling all one’s private details. Don’t feel like a phony; you are wise to save some things for yourself!

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